Tuesday, April 13, 2010

3 Months Going 4

Now, this is baby journal. Was thinking of making a new journal specially for Asha's development, but I am just super lazy.

3rd month milestones:
1. She can grab things now. Even though the hand is still clasped but now she opens it everytime she wants to get something. Mostly the one she can grab now are the small and thin objects like chains, hair, fabrics, etc.
2. She hasn't turned yet :(. I mean by herself. She can turn sideways, but the she can't turn the butt over. Hahahaha..
3. Her neck is very strong. Nowadays she refuses to lay on her back flat. She likes to sit up a bit straight.. and she loves if we put her standing up with the feet flat on the ground. :D
4. She babbles a lot! Haha.. Around strangers she's more on the quiet side, but when we get home she would start babbling again! Very happy during morning time especially, super chatty and super cheerful.. She also laughs and screams sometimes, my maid said she's experimenting with her own voice.
5. She drinks 500ml within 8hours I leave her at home.
6. She likes to play now, leave her with those toys with songs and sounds, I can leave her be for some time (my maid said this doesn't apply on Mondays)
7. She moves actively now, if I leave her on the crib, a few minutes later her position would have changed 90 degrees. The arms and legs are also moving equally.

Every monday she always has to adapt again with the teat. Because on weekends she latches on fully. I think that is a good thing for me, bad thing for my maid. :D.

Every time I see her progress it just amazes me that I too started as a little helpless thing. Every little thing that she does never cease to amaze me. Don't stop being such a wonderful girl okay? :)

Saturday, April 3, 2010

ASIX, Kebutuhan atau Prestise?

Kalau dulu jaman aku kecil orang2 pada pake susu formula, sekarang lagi digalakkan ASIX 6 bulan penuh. Jadi semua orang lagi menggembar gemborkan ASI. Menurutku ini adalah hal yang baik, karena bagaimanapun juga ASI memang makanan bayi yg paling lengkap gizinya dan tidak mengandung zat kimia aneh2 seperti yg mungkin ada di susu formula.

Meskipun aku percaya setiap ibu insyaAllah PASTI ada susunya, namun dr segi jumlah pasti berbeda beda. Ada yang banyak melimpah, ada yg cukup, ada yang lebih sedikit. Banyak ibu2 yang demi menambah ASI menggelonggong air sebanyak2nya, makan daun katuk dsb. Hal ini menurutku bagus... soalnya penting bagi si ibu utk menerapkan pola hidup sehat. Namun begitu, ada ibu2 yg meskipun sudah melakukan segala cara demi menambah ASI namun tetap kurang utk memenuhi kebutuhan anaknya.

Pertanyaan yang menurutku sangat mengganggu adalah, "Gimana, ASI?" Kalo jawabannya iya sih syukur. Kalo engga, suka dituduh macam2.. "Kenapa? Takut sakit ya? TAkut susunya turun ya?". Kok kesannya jadi dosa banget sih ga ngasi ASI? Apapun alasannya setidaknya anaknya masih diberi makan.

Terkadang ibu2 yang susunya kurang itu menyerah karena tahu susunya tidak cukup. Namun menurutku pribadi gak ada salahnya terus diberi ASI. Kalau kurang tambah aja susu formula. Meskipun ASI hanya sedikit terus aja diusahakan utk diberi. Alhamdulillah kalau bertambah, kalau tidak ya setidaknya si anak sempat dapat ASI. Karena ASI itu mengandung probiotik, sedangkan susu formula tidak. Ada beberapa temanku yang "maksa" banget ASIX meski susunya kurang dan menolak sufor sama sekali. Memang ada opsi utk mencari donor ASI. Tp iya kalo ada donor di sekitar. Kalo engga?

Aku sendiri bertekad memberi ASI selama 1 thn insyaAllah jika diijinkan. Bukan apa-apa, tapi mendengar efek2 samping susu formula aku jadi takut. Kasihan si bayi juga. Namun so far tmn2ku yg pake susu formula bilang efek sampingnya tidak seburuk yg dikabarkan. Jadi jika nanti sebelum 1 thn anakku minum semakin banyak dan aku tidak sanggup menyediakan, aku harus campur dengan susu formula. InsyaAllah tidak berefek buruk. Sebenernya sebelum kukasih sufor aku mau cari donor ASI dulu. Tp kalo gak dapat ya sufor lah my last resort.

Oleh karena itu, menurutku, ASI memang penting dan sebaiknya diusahakan utk diberi. Tapi jangan dijadikan suatu prestise bagi kaum ibu. Anjuran utk memberi ASI memang seharusnya disebarkan, namun jgn langsung menjudge ibu2 yg memberi susu formula. Setiap orang punya penilaian dan alasan sendiri2. Kita hanya bisa saling menasihati dalam kebaikan....

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Time Heals

At least once in your lifetime you have that somebody that you truly hate and despise to the roots! Well, at least in MY lifetime. I spent days and nights hating that person, wonder what I should do to get back to him.

In the end, I wonder what would hating him do me? Would it do me good? Can it erase all the things that he's done to me in the past? NO. IT WOULD NOT. Forgiving is another thing though, everytime I remember what he's done to me, I feel like forgiveness is too "soft". I want revenge!! But then I wonder, how do I avenge? Thinking the ways to avenge oneself is too emotion consuming, time consuming and HEART and SOUL consuming.

So now I've learnt to let go. I can't change what happens in the past, but I still don't like him. I can just go the safe way, just stay out of his way. Where it's not so important don't go near him. I find that time heals and prayer helps. Everyday I pray that God would be so kind to cleanse my soul of this hatred. I pray to God to give some space in my heart for forgiveness. One day, I did.

I really don't care what he does anymore, nor do I care whether he still remembers what he's done to me. I've learnt to be happy for myself, if I can't be happy for someone's happiness.
Hatred really isn't something that you should breed, it'll destroy your soul.

Sometimes I wish God doesn't forgive him or make him pay. But now all I care about is whether God will forgive ME for all I've done. So I guess in the end, it is true.. time heals everything. Cause in time you realize, that what happens can not be undone. What's left is to repent and promise yourself not to let it happen again, and pray that God forgives you...

So my friend, now I can say, I forgive you. As I wish that God could forgive me too...